Guni Blohm

God is IN you - you ARE love - you do not have to deserve love, or endure hardship in order to prove your love! You are magnificent and the divine wisdom is within you! Follow the path where you can shine your brightest light, where you can BE the love you were meant to be, by starting with yourself. Love yourself. Be kind and compassionate with yourself.

How much power does this statement have over you?

"What God has joined together, let no man put asunder" 

What meaning have you chosen to give these words?

Another statement I had come to believe was

"It is too easy to get a divorce - giving up is just too easy"

I used to believe in hard work, and in fighting for my relationship. I wanted to show everybody how strong I was! I was NOT going to give up! I was going to save this marriage! So, I fought, and cried, felt angry and powerless. In the process, I let my children suffer the consequences of my frustration and lack of self-love.

The turning point for me came when I started attending Al-Anon (a self-help group of people with an alcoholic family member). Talking to one of the members from A-A, I said that I felt it would be too easy to just give up and leave. He challenged me on that statement, saying - "NO - it is too easy to stay!"

What!?  I felt provoked!

He said - "If you stay, nothing has to change. You will know exactly what to expect from your husband. You can stay in your home. Your children can stay in the same school or day care. You will not be alone and you can keep all your friends." He continued - "If you leave, nothing is certain! You don´t know how your husband will react. You don´t know where you will live. You may have to find a different day care for your children. You will be alone, and  some of your mutual friends may choose your ex. THAT is not easy - that is hard - that takes guts!" His words hit a nerve. I thought I had been trying to do the hard thing to prove that I was not weak. Now, with his words, he had turned it all around!

One morning I was feeling especially low and confused, On my way to work I rang one of the leaders in the Al-anon group looking for support. I just couldn't cope with going to work, feeling this way! She didn't have the available time, so she asked me to call another woman in the group - who turned out to be a priest. At first I felt reluctant to speak to her because I felt ashamed to talk to a priest about leaving my husband, but

she was exactly who I needed to talk to

Without me even mentioning my background (I was brought up in a Christian family with the belief that divorce was a sin and that I would  probably end up in hell if I had one) she just sat there quietly and in the most reassuring and compassionate way, she intuitively put words to my very feelings. She talked about the love of God and how he wants us to cherish life and be the inspiration we were meant to be and to shine his love and light in this world.

Suddenly, I realised that all my fears of being condemned were actually not from God - but rather from human kind - society and other people's opinions about what is wrong and right. Right there, I could feel the unconditional love of God, the God energy within me, my source, and all that I am made of.

In that moment I believed that it was possible to be divorced AND feel free from the burden of having done something wrong in the eyes of God. I knew that the love energy that created me had my back and that no human being could ever convince me again, that it was wrong to leave by husband, because I knew that in our case it was the best thing for me, him and our two children.

A part of me still feels that I have "failed" him

Writing this, 19 years later, I realise, that  once in a while, a part of me still feels that I have "failed" him, although I never regretted my decision, because it has proven to be the best for all of us. Now, I can be  aware  of my old pattern of needing to save him, and whenever the feeling of guilt comes up, I lovingly remind the hurt little girl inside of me, that I do not need to save anybody in order to prove my love or to be worthy of love and joy.

Are you holding yourself back from living a truly free and fulfilling life out of fear of the unknown? Are you afraid of disappointing others? Do you believe you need to BE in a certain way in order to prove your love?

I will lovingly guide you through the process

Let me show you how to let go of all those fears. I will lovingly guide you through the process of uncovering the belief systems you have inherited from your family and helping you become aware of the beautiful gifts that lie hidden in your challenges. Working with me, you will be able to change your perspective and, in doing so, gain the understanding and clarity you need to create a life of emotional freedom and become truly self-empowered.

Today, in my heart, I truly believe there is NO SIN, there is NO CONDEMNATION, there is only LOVE or ABSENCE OF LOVE